Fork

A few years ago I heard a very inspiring and motivating story. It went like this.

There was a Christian lady who was diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things “in order,” she contacted her pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfits she wanted to be buried in. The woman also requested to be buried with her favorite Bible.

Everything was in order and the pastor was preparing to leave when the woman suddenly remembered something very important to her. “There’s one more thing,” she said excitedly. “What’s that?” came the pastor’s reply. “This is very important,” the woman continued. “I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand.”

The pastor stood looking at the woman, not knowing quite what to say. “That surprises you, doesn’t it? The woman asked. “Well, to be honest, I’m puzzled by the request,” said the pastor.

The woman explained, “In all my years of attending church socials and potluck dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, “Keep your fork.” It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming . . .like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance!  So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder, “What’s with the fork?” Then I want you to tell them: “Keep your fork. The best is yet to come.”

The pastor’s eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the woman had a better grasp of Heaven than most Christians did.

TO UNDERSTAND THE IMPLICATION OF THIS STORY YOU MUST HAVE ATTENDED POTLUCKS. AS A RETIRED MINISTER I’VE BEEN TO HUNDREDS OF THEM. YOU ARE ALWAYS URGED TO HANG ON TO YOUR FORK. DESSERT IS JUST AHEAD.

At her funeral people were walking by the woman’s casket and they saw the pretty dress she was wearing, her favorite Bible, and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the pastor heard the question “What’s with the fork?” And over and over he smiled.

During his message, the pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. The pastor told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either. He was right. So the next time you reach down for your fork, let it remind you ever so gently, that the best is yet to come.

A few years ago when I was a pastor, Dee was a member and was terminally ill with cancer. I was on vacation in Australia and was notified by my secretary that she was dying and would like to see me.

I immediately flew home and went to Kaiser Hospital. Dee was in and out of consciousness.  When she was alert she asked me for some word that would encourage her.

My mind went blank except for a phrase from the 23^rd Psalm. “Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil for God is with me.” She then asked me to write it down so she could read it. She would never remember it. I did on a napkin by her bed. She died a few hours later.

I shared that incident with the audience at Dee’s funeral. Those words are for us. You and me.

Amen. Selah. So be it.  

 

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G. W. Abersold Ph.D